You're always doing the best you can with the tools you have.
When you were younger, you weren't given the proper tools for managing your emotions and healing difficult experiences. To protect yourself, you created safety strategies.
As an adult, these strategies no longer serve you.
Strategies may include:
*Numbing to avoid pain
*Sabotaging healthy relationships
*Staying too long in unhealthy relationships
(Because you don't want to lose the love you have.)
*Over-Give & People Please
*Manipulate & try to control others
(All to feel safe, loved and protected from places inside that hurt)
You have old, unhealed wounds because you didn't have the tools you needed at the time to metabolize them.
Unprocessed emotional experiences get stored as imprints or trauma in the body & unconscious mind. Life is designed to bring you the right people, experiences and situations to trigger old wounds to help you heal & grow from them.
In order to change your life and create the types of experiences you really want, the journey is a path of seeing, feeling & hearing unprocessed emotions and experiences.
Although uncomfortable to face, wounds become wisdom and wisdom is gold.